With the speedy and overbearing lifestyle so many of us have obtained, we start to get so overwhelmed that instead of fixing the problem, we think of ways to beat around the bush. Well, I say, “No More!” Here are 3 ways you can start fighting back for your life.
1. This is your life, no one else’s.
Whether there are demands at work, at home, at school, or with friends, we tend to put other’s and their priorities ahead of ours. We make up excuses as to why they need us. Who cares how I feel, as long as I make him/her happy, that’s all that matters. Were that may work for some people, it doesn’t work all the time. Stop putting everyone else and everything else before you. How exactly can you give 100% if you’re not 100%? Stop making excuses. Put yourself first for once.
2. You’re not letting others down.
I think we tend to put others first because we think we might let them down. Yep, that might happen. But in 10 years from now, will that really make a difference? If the answer is yes, then figure out a way to make both parties happy. But if the answer is no, then put yourself first. Yes, we all want to help someone out. We don’t want to make life too difficult for them. But what is the point in doing that if all you’re doing is making life harder for you?
3. Take a good look at your life.
Really. Take a good look at your life. Is it really what you want to be doing? For some of you, the answer is no. No, I don’t want to be working here with these clowns. No, I don’t want to be in this marriage. No, I don’t want to be hanging out with these people. Here’s an idea: Stop! Maybe it's time that someone tells you that what you are doing isn’t working. And if that person is me, so be it. Right now, after you read this blog, start putting your plans to make your life better on paper. Literally. Write down your plan.
Sometimes you just have to fight for your life. You have to put yourself and your priorities ahead of others. It doesn’t make you a bad person and chances are it won’t matter 10 years down the line. Remember you’re not letting others down. Now, get out a piece of paper and literally plan how you are going to start fighting for the life you want!
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