I don’t know about you but sometimes things become so chaotic and crazy that all I really need to do is just vent. You know what I mean - let it all out. As Bethenny Frankel calls it, ‘Diarrhea of the mouth.’ It’s that feeling that you get, that feeling of everything bottlenecking and if you don’t figure out a way to help it, you will explode. Here’s my suggestions on how not to explode and find other ways to help the craziness.
1. Let it Go
It’s like that disney movie, Let It Go - just let it go. Vent. There’s a few ways you can do this. One, you can move to the tallest mountain and build yourself and ice castle like Elsa. Or, you can be a little more practical. I suggest getting out a piece of paper or opening up your computer and just write. Who care’s if it makes sense or is grammatically correct. Just write down all the issues and concerns. And, don’t stop writing till you feel you have cleared out all the junk, till you have written it all down. You will know when this happens because you feel calmer, like a weight has been lifted.
2. Talk to Someone
Okay, so maybe you are not a writer. That’s okay. Talk to someone instead. Pick up the phone and call your sibling, your friend, your cousin. Someone who is close to you and is willing to hear you vent. Tell them ahead of time that you need a second to vent. Don’t have someone to call? Call me. I’m a licensed therapist so I’m all ears. Now don’t make the mistake of calling someone and taking out your frustrations on them. (That is not the purpose of talking to someone.)
3. Give Yourself a Break
I think for a lot of people, myself included, I tend to come up with reasons why I can’t vent. Why I can’t call someone or write it down. Well, I can’t call my sister because she doesn’t have time for me. I can’t call my best friend because she won’t want to listen to me ramble on and on. I can’t write down my feelings and issues because I want to watch the Real Housewives first (it’s going to be a good episode). Give yourself a break. Stop with the excuses. Allow yourself the opportunity to let it out, vent. Worried that they other person on the other end of the phone doesn’t want to listen to you? Ask them flat out. Tell them you need to vent and see if it is a good time and if they want to listen to you.
My Take Away…
Sometime you just have to vent. Things get too crazy and it gets bottled up. Those are the moments you should let it out. Write it out or talk to someone. Schedule a therapy session if you need. And lastly, give yourself the okay to do some. Give yourself a break.
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